How do you collect T-shirt sizes from the whole group?

Create a questionnaire with the question "Your T-shirt size" and send it to those who have confirmed they are coming. Everyone fills in their own form, including from the web if they do not have the app, and you view all the answers in a table that you export as a CSV to place your order. The same questionnaire can cover shoe size, allergies, diet and fitness level.

How do you organise travel for a hen or stag do?

Let participants post their outbound and return journeys, with the departure point and the number of seats available. Those without a car post a seat request, visible to everyone. The group sorts out the allocation between themselves, without you having to keep a list, and petrol costs can then be added to the shared expenses.

Can you reply to an invitation without installing the app?

Yes. The invitation link opens a web page where the person views the event and replies directly: attendance, plus-ones, a message to the group. They can also fill in any pending questionnaires from that same page. The app remains optional, for the chat, photos and notifications.

How do you split the expenses of a hen or stag do?

Everyone declares what they have paid for (Airbnb, van, activity, shopping) and Orgaa automatically works out who owes how much to whom to settle up. The guest of honour's share can be adjusted, or even covered by the group. Orgaa does not process any payment: repayments are made directly between you.

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Organising an unforgettable hen or stag do in 2026: the complete method

By Alexandre DemortierPublished on 7 June 2026Updated on 19 September 2026

Organising a hen party or a stag do means juggling the wishes of a whole group, a budget to stick to, impossible diaries and, often, an element of surprise to protect. The good news: with a clear method, you can turn this headache into a memorable weekend. Here is how to go about it, step by step.

What should you agree with the bride or groom-to-be before you start?

Before anything else, clarify the essentials directly with the person concerned: do they want a total surprise or to be partly involved? Are there activities to avoid? A maximum acceptable budget? These answers steer the whole plan and avoid the worst-case scenario: a hen or stag do that is nothing like the person it is for.

How do you set the budget for a hen or stag do without creating tension?

Budget is the number one source of tension. Put it on the table from the start, before you even dream of a destination. Set a realistic amount per person, and clearly separate what is shared (gift, accommodation, main activity) from what stays individual (travel, personal spending). The method for settling the weekend’s expenses keeps it out of the group chat.

Estimate a total cost per person, travel included.
Identify who is on a tight budget so you can adapt without excluding anyone.
Centralise shared costs in a single group fund rather than juggling ten repayments.

How do you choose the date and the destination for a hen or stag do?

The date has to work with the group's availability and how close the wedding is (ideally 3 to 6 weeks before, never the night before). For the destination, put it to a vote: a collective decision avoids disappointment and gets everyone on board. A lively city, a house in the countryside, a weekend abroad: let the group decide between 2 or 3 shortlisted options.

The best hen or stag do is not the most expensive one: it is the one where nobody felt left out of the decision.

How do you build the programme for the weekend?

A good programme alternates highlights and free time. Book the headline activities in advance (they fill up fast at weekends), but leave room for the unexpected. Share the running order with the group so everyone knows what to bring: outfit, cash, a surprise to prepare.

One "signature" activity that defines the weekend.
Quiet moments to catch your breath and talk.
Some room for improvisation (the best memories are often made there).

How do you coordinate the group without wearing yourself out?

With several people involved, information gets lost quickly. Centralise invitations, RSVP tracking, the programme and the group fund in one place, rather than scattering it all across messages that scroll out of sight. You stay in control without having to repeat everything ten times. That is exactly what Orgaa for hen and stag parties lets you do.

There is one point everyone underestimates: the information you need to collect from each person. T-shirt size for the goodies, shoe size for the sporting activity, allergies and diets for the caterer, driving licence for the van, fitness level for the canyoning. Asked in the group chat, these questions produce thirty scattered answers that you have to compile by hand. A questionnaire asks them once and for all: everyone fills in their own form, you read everything in a table and you export it to place your order without getting it wrong.

Weekend infoPublished

5 questions · 12/16 completed

Marie L.'s form

Your dietary needsVegetarian

Your T-shirt sizeM

Are you driving?Yes · 3 seats

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One form per participant: sizes, allergies and fitness level, gathered in a single table.

How do you keep the surprise from the bride or groom-to-be?

If part of the weekend has to stay secret, make sure the conversations and the group fund remain invisible to the person concerned. Surprise mode prevents an unfortunate leak, following the same logic as organising a surprise birthday.

What checklist should you follow to organise a hen or stag do?

Ground rules agreed with the bride or groom-to-be
Budget per person set and accepted
Date and destination voted on by the group
Headline activities booked in advance
Programme shared and roles assigned
Shared costs centralised in a group fund
Surprise mode switched on if needed
Shared photo album ready for the weekend

A successful hen or stag do is above all one where the planning does not rest on a single overwhelmed person. By bringing decisions, budget and memories together in one place, you get to enjoy the weekend as much as everyone else. Which, after all, is the whole point.

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